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Tag: Happiness
The Hard Truth {Misophonia}
Misophonia, literally “hatred of sound,” was proposed in 2000 as a disorder in which negative emotions, thoughts, and physical reactions are triggered by specific sounds.
As per Wikipedia this means you literally hate sound. Now, if you are a mom with two busy, very loud “munchkins” it can literally drive you up the wall. I became aware of this funny feeling deep inside me after I made the huge decision to stop being a working mom and just be a normal mom, staying at home, enjoying and getting to know my children.
One day, on a sunny afternoon, we had a play-date and my son’s best friend, a very sweet little girl, came over to play. She was the sweetest little thing with the highest pitch voice I’ve ever heard, and that day I totally lost it. I locked myself in the bathroom for the most of the afternoon, histerically screaming they must keep it down, be quite, stop yelling, stop running, etc, etc. and all they did was being kids. Since that day I can’t stand any loud noises, anything from a lot of people talking, the tv being on to loud, kids playing and screaming and running around, my husband playing with the dogs, even the washing machine spinning….all is just too much and it literally feels like my head wants to explode. I cannot work or concentrate when people are around me talking, fiddling or even eating. I thought I was going crazy, so….I did what I do best….I started researching, reading, asking questions. And guess what, there is nothing wrong with me….well…there is actually a brain disorder called Misophonia…it means your brain aren’t equipped to handle a lot of loud noises and then it does what it does best when in distress….yes, I’m talking about the fight or flight reaction….In my case I literally start to scream at anybody, I get like an anxiety attack, I can’t breathe and feel like there is a time bomb in my head that’s gonna go off any minute.
The worst of the worst is that your family doesn’t understand this. They think your ‘funny’ or ‘weird’ or just having a bad day. This is probably the most lonely disorder, as nobody gets it.
Portrait business woman screaming at street car traffic
So, to all the moms out there that feels they’re going crazy…you’re not…I get it….we just not emotionally equipped to deal with any loud noises.
For more info visit Misophonia Online website.
Slowing down & enjoying the simple life
I just read that there is a new book on the market that everybody should read. It’s called THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK by Mark Manson. In short, he focuses on the fact that life is hard, and that you must rather learn to deal with it and not just expect everything to be positive, to actually ignore the let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected our society. We’re busy spoiling our generation, by rewarding them gold medals just by showing up…and that ain’t on. Life is hard, and the secret is that you must enjoy, appreciate and be grateful for what you have, who you are and where you live.
The simple truth is that we are busy chasing things that aren’t real. Hence, my heading “slowing down & enjoying the simple life”, everybody is searching frantically for the best, most beautiful house, best clothes, fastest car….and if it isn’t working just go and buy a new one. We are teaching our children that everything is replaceable, that money can fix anything, and being the most beautiful, with the best hair due, best make-up and best-manicured nails are the things that make us happy….guess what, that isn’t true.
So…this year I’m pressing pause on a lot of things and rather live out my toolkit gained over the years. I’m sharing it with you, hoping that you will be able to take one of them home and live a better, happier life.
- Define your goals and share them with family, friends and colleagues so that they can understand you.
- Plan, plan, plan – set goals and review them. If you don’t have a plan how would you know when you get there?
- Always be yourself – no-one else is better qualified.
- Be happy – the purpose of life is happiness and the key to happiness is in your own hands.
- Always continue to learn – you’re never too old!!
- Say ‘I’m sorry’
- Keep demanding excellence for yourself
- Just be happy!!!
Fun in the sun ’16
For the first time in 4 years, we went back to my childhood holiday destination, on the West Coast of South Africa, called Strandfontein. It brought back so many memories, but most of all it was so nice to see my children enjoy it. They loved the freedom that came with a camping-at-the-sea holiday. I gave them total freedom and they were able to come and go as they please (but, as they are still under 12, with a strict clock-in time of 8:00 pm).
See the magic of the West Coast of South Africa.
The best part of a sea holiday is the new friends you make.
Then there is the most beautiful beaches and views.
Last, but not least is the best sunset….
When I was young(er)
Turning 40 is not for ‘sissies’. I went to a rock concert the other day, which we did quite a lot when we were younger, but wow, what an eye opener. The music rocked, and the artists stood up to my expectations, but……
My 40-year-old body and it would seem my looks, couldn’t keep up. This I realised after a ‘boy’ made a statement with regards to my age, and the fact that I looked at least 10 years older than the general age of the audience. At least he showed some awe as to the fact that I was actually at the show.
That, however, didn’t put me off, as this young man don’t realise yet, is that age is in the eye of the beholder and that you are always as old as you feel, in my case, 25. I still feel like a young girl who thinks she can concur the world, party all night and only life on coffee. However my favourite part about getting older is realising all the adults I looked up to were really just winging it as well, and that is ok. We don’t need to stress and worry about so many things, in the end, all will be fine, you must just realise within yourself that you are ok, you are making the best choice (not always the correct choice), and if you fail you will learn.
So, I realise the value of privacy, of cultivating my circle and only letting certain people in. I can be open, honest, and real and know that not everyone deserves a seat at my table of life.
Therefore I vow that I will never, at any age, be that old lady, waiting for life to happen. I will embrace every moment, be happy within myself and accept myself for who I am.
I will not look back to my younger days, as I am still young.
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